Codependency isn’t sexy. It isn’t romantic. It’s built with a fuse and will surely burn out. The healthiest thing you can say to the one you love is, “I would be okay without you, and that’s why I choose to stay.”
When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves.
But you keep the promise anyway. That’s what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway.
Why do you put your self esteem in the hands of complete strangers?